Over the last 25 years, I have gained and lost about 50 pounds three different times. The first time was after my first pregnancy in 1988 (I call this my happy gain). The second time was in 1995 during the year my young husband was dying of cancer (my sad gain). And the third was during a second marriage filled with various kinds of troubles (my traumatic gain).
I was a yo-yo’er and my emotions dictated my body weight reality. I also had a perfect storm of personal characteristics which led to the constant up and downs: perfectionism, ruthless self-judgement, a victim mentality, and feelings of unworthiness.
The good news is that in 2006 I chose to end the cycle. I lost my last 50 and have changed for good. How do I know this? I changed the way I think among other things.
I learned many things about food, fuel, health, behaviour, attitudes and habits. Little by little I learned a great deal about me and about the world around me and chose to move towards health and happiness and away from fighting a constant war with my weight.
Over the next few weeks, I will blog about some of the truths I have uncovered in my journey to live in all the dimensions of health. It has lead to a stable body weight and all sorts of other riches – many of which I hadn’t even imagined.
Some topics will include:
– About Sleep and Weight Loss
More pearls to live by:
1. Losing weight slowly is better than never.
2. We can say “No thanks, maybe later”.
3. If not now, when?
4. Eat breakfast at home. It’s important that your body TRUSTS that you can be depended upon to feed it regularly, as you ask it to do things like shower, make lunches, drive to work, read emails, think and organize.
5. Understand your inner body and mind.
6. Get your body to trust you, and it will shed those fat cells it was desperately holding onto.
7. We deserve a healthy body. It’s time to care about ourselves as much as we care for our loved-ones.
8. Each of us are so different. Think of exercise that fits your personality. Follow routines and patterns that allow you to get healthy, happy and proud.
9. Go towards your new goals in very small steps that will encourage the sense of confidence (that you can do it) and self-trust (that you will follow through with what you say to yourself you want to do). Cross these off one at a time: (1) Have an idea such as wishing to use a weighted hula hoop. (2) Plan to research which ‘Winners’ has one. (3) Schedule the time to buy it. (4) Assemble it. (5) Hoop for 1 minute. (6) Keep increasing the time on the hoop as per the instructions. Little by little is the key. It is MUCH harder to intend to start something next Saturday morning for 30 minutes.
10. Joke: “No, thanks. That piece of cake will look better on you!”
1. If you trip on the first two stairs, don’t throw yourself down the rest of the flight.
2. Waste it, or waist it.
3. If ya sorta do it, it sorta works.
4. It’s about being healthy, not skinny.
5. Engage in the pursuit of health whether you are gaining, on a frustrating plateau, or losing body weight. You are worth it.
6. Never reprimand yourself or feel shame about slip-ups. This is worse than the slip-up.
7. Nothing tastes as good as self-pride feels.
8. Dive into learning about sugar, fibre, water, alcohol, in-activity – like your life depends on it.